Expanding the ideas on my earlier piece on Biorhythms and Group
Dynamic which looked at social interactions within groups of people
depending biorhythmic compatibility, let's look at what effect
biorhythm has on the relationship of two people. I will do this in
three stages: one is friendship; one is love and romance; and one is
marriage. The reason why I am breaking these up is because in reality,
these different types of relationships often depend on different
biorhythmic compatibilities.
Let's start with Friendship: The first thing, the most important thing
is to know who you are, and how you connect to people. Are you the type
of person that wants to have fun, a good time, go dancing, shopping,
sit around and chat, the human contact type? Or are you the person that
likes to go for hikes, go biking, diving, flying, sailing, skiing, the
active kind? Or do you prefer to have intellectually stimulating
conversations with intellectual or philosophical people, the
intellectual kind? Of course, most of us are a combination of all of
those things to varying degrees. One interesting experiment you might
want to consider is to enter your 14 best friends and acquaintances
into our Biorhythm calculator and look at where you are compatible
with them. I was surprised to learn that most of my friends are
intellectually compatible with me, so I know that I connect with people
on an intellectual level, and I can have long and challenging debates
with all of those people on a variety of topics. What I became aware of
though, is that I could not have fun with these people. I did not walk
away feeling emotionally 'good'. So, what is missing?
I also have a few friends that are perfectly matched on my emotional
biorhythm cycle, and what I noticed is that, even though we do not have very
deep conversations, we always have a lot of fun together. After I have
met with these people, I feel good.
Once you have determined who you are, and what you look for in a
relationship, it is quite easy to find people that are compatible in
this regard, be it physical, emotional, or intellectual. Also keep in
mind that we need different things at different times. Sometimes I need
to think, want to think, want to philosophize, want to debate, argue.
So, I have a certain group of people that I will visit on when I am 'in
the mood'. I will go visit my intellectual friends. On the other hand,
there are times that I am feeling down, or I don't want to think, I
just want to have fun and feel well. I go see my 'fun crowd'. And if I
feel energetic, wanting to climb a mountain or go biking, I choose my
physical friends.
Problems in friendship appear when you try to take people from one
crowd, and you try to bring them into another one where you are simply
mismatched. That's when the 'you never want to have fun' or the 'we can
never talk' accusations happen. Yes, these people want to have fun, and
they want to talk, but now when you want to, and you don't want to when
they want to.
So, to sum it all up, don't try to make your friends something they are
not capable of, accept people for who and what they are, and
concentrate on what your are compatible on. Rather, have several groups
of friends and spend time with each group depending on your current
needs and wants. Life will be much better this way.
Disclaimer: This information is based on private research, and should not
be used in place of professional advice. The Author is not a trained counsellor, psychologist,
doctor, or any other type of researcher. You act on this advice at your own risk.
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